Conversation with a gay friend recently:
Me: What’s going on with you and [man friend]?
Friend: No word on whether he wants to be boyfriends, but we're dating. Dude, I'm such a lesbian. I pretty much know if someone's a good fit, after initially meeting them, or by the second date. It's like pulling teeth with men. You gotta give them space, or they run towards the hills.
Me: I'm not good at dating more than one person at a time. I'm not even good at dating just one person at a time! I’m, like, can we just skip the dating part and start planning the wedding??
Friend: FUCK. Right?? I don't have time for this coy shit. DO YOU WANT ME OR NOT!!???? WELL???!!!! MAKE UP YOUR MIND!!! But I digress…
Me: I get it. Who wants to keep 'dating' and fucking around for the rest of their lives? What would be the point? I mean, I don't mind dating, as long as I know it's headed somewhere. It's ok to take your time so long as you know that there's something deeper developing.
Which leads me to these questions: Why is wanting a commitment (or rushing towards commitment) an inherently “lesbian” trait? Why is being certain about someone a lesbian cliché?
[This one's for you, "B2". I know you've been waiting with bated breath. Thanks for reading with such enthusiasm!]